Bible Verses

“However, avoid pointless discussions. For people will become more and more ungodly”. – 2 Timothy 2:16
“But avoid foolish controversies, arguments about genealogies, quarrels, and fights about the Law. These things are useless and worthless. Think before you start an argument.”– Titus 3:9
“Do everything without complaining and arguing.” – Philippians 2:14
“Keep reminding God’s people of these things. Warn them before God against quarreling about words; it is of no value, and only ruins those who listen.” – 2 Timothy 2:14
“Remind the believers to submit to the government and its officers. They should be obedient, always ready to do what is good. They must not slander anyone and must avoid quarreling. Instead, they should be gentle and show true humility to everyone.” – Titus 3:1-2
“An angry person stirs up conflict, and a hot-tempered person commits many sins.” – Proverbs 29:22
“The heart of the godly thinks carefully before speaking; the mouth of the wicked overflows with evil words.” – Proverbs 15:28

Christian Bible Lesson Overview

It is critical to think prior to making attacking statements.  When someone says something to you that you see as an attack, think about the entire situation before responding.  First, thinking about the subject and its importance is critical prior to continuing a conflict.  If the subject of the conflict does not have a major effect on you or your loved ones, it is better to avoid the conflict and let it go. 

This does not mean that you allow someone to attack you or your loved ones in a way that will cause real damage to anyone.  It does mean stopping and thinking about whether the attack or insult from another person has a serious effect.  If the insult does not have a lasting effect on anyone, avoid responding negatively and let the threat go away.

Christian Bible Lesson for Today

Brenda and her boss.

Brenda worked very hard to complete her undergraduate and graduate degrees in journalism.  She was hired as a member of a reporting team for a local news station.  As an intern, she interviews people at the scene of an accident or crime.   She was on her third assignment when she was at the scene of a robbery at an ATM machine.  A woman was withdrawing cash when she was attacked by a man who took her wallet and ran away.

Brenda interviewed some of the people who were near the ATM machine at the time of the incident.  One man told her that the woman was just taking her money from the machine when the robber pushed her against the wall and the robber took her money and her purse.  He said the man the police arrested was the man who took her money and purse.  Brenda said that was awful and the robber must be put in prison. 

Another man watching the interview walked up to Brenda and pushed her back against the wall.  He told her that she had no right to say what should happen to a man that has not had his day in court. 

Brenda immediately pushed the man away from her and yelled at him that he had no right to tell her what to say and he should think about his own behavior.  She yelled for him to go away before she called the authorities. 

The man immediately pushed her again and told her she was the one who needs to go to the authorities.  He told her she was unprofessional and should not be allowed to cover live stories.  Then both Brenda and the man began yelling at each other until police officers came and broke up the dispute.  A couple of people took a video of the entire incident and gave the videos to other news agencies.

The police did not file charges, but Brenda’s boss had a strong conversation with Brenda.  He told her that she was out of line and would not be allowed to conduct any interviews for four weeks.  He told her that she should have just listened to the man who was verbally attacking her and when he was finished moved to her next question of the witness.  Chances are the man would have backed off and that would have been the end.  As it happened, she will have to be interviewed at the police station and the public saw her in a heated argument with a man who had his own point of view. 

Brenda thought about the entire incident and realized that she made the mistake of responding to the man before she thought about the situation and evaluated whether responding in a heated manner was the correct decision.  Fortunately, she learned her lesson, but she has the incident on her record, and it will affect her as she moves forward with her career.

Christian Bible Lesson Summary

When faced with a conflict, think about how important the conflict is before responding.  If the result of the initial conflict does not affect you or your loved ones, avoid the conflict and continue without further response. 

It is much better to accept criticism and move on than to start a conflict that will end with pain to either party. 

This does not mean to respond, it means to stop and think about whether the conflict affects you or your loved ones in a serious way. 

Published by Jim Brandt

Jim Brandt was an all-conference college football player and served as a Marine Corps pilot during the Vietnam War. He also started a software company and served as an executive for the fifth-largest bank in the United States. Brandt won the Democratic party nomination for Congress twice. He is married and has three children.