“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment, you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye?” – Matthew 7:1-4

“Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.” – Galatians 6:1

“Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?” – James 4:11-12

“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven” – Luke 6:37

“So, whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” – Matthew 7:12

It is important for us to be very careful about the way we evaluate other people, especially our family and friends.  It is easy to see limitations in other people, but it is much more difficult to evaluate our own actions. When we do notice transgressions from family, friends, or others; it is important not to communicate any form of judgement, but to be there to support them. 

It is so easy to notice problems in others and yet so difficult for us to see our effect on other people.  We need to be supportive when we notice other people acting poorly rather than passing judgement.  If our objective is to be there for our family, friends, and others; we will be supportive as opposed to judgmental.

Bill’s Uncle

Bill is a high school football player in his junior year.  He has worked very hard to earn a scholarship to college.  He does his best to make himself look good to his coaches and everyone watching the games.  When he notices teammates make mistakes, he is very quick to criticize, especially to the coaches. 

After playing through half the season, Bill’s teammates began to avoid him and not support him as they supported their other teammates.  Near the end of that season, the coaches removed Bill from the starting team because of the lack of support Bill had from the other players. 

Bill had a conversion with his head coach after the season ended.  His coach told him there was more to playing football than making yourself look good.  He told Bill that Bill had the necessary skills, but he did not have the team spirit.  He needed to help his teammates, not put them down.  The team must work together, not try to outplay each other.

Bill thought about what his coach told him during the following months.  Bill only had one more season to earn his scholarship.  Bill talked with his uncle about the entire situation.  His uncle told him that football teams are the same as other groups in life.  You do not need to seek credit for everything you do.  You must develop good relationships and support those relationships.  In the case of football, play for the team, not yourself.  Do everything you can to help everyone on the team and do not seek credit.  You will receive plenty of credit over time. 

Bill thought about what his uncle told him. Play for the team.  During the spring practices he worked hard to help the other players.  He acknowledged when another player made a good play.  After the second week, the players began to treat him as a respected friend.  By the time his senior year began, Bill was back on the first team.  He had a good season but did not earn the scholarship he was seeking.  His uncle told him to continue to work and do not lose faith.

Bill played one year at a junior college and then earned a scholarship to a major university.  Bill learned so much from this experience.  He was able to apply the concept of not judging other people and supporting others with everything he did. 

It is important for us to learn that we do not need to receive credit for everything we do.  When we focus on helping other people and making things better for everyone, we will receive all the credit we need without pursuing it.

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